Dear Friend,
Have you or a loved one ever mumbled the words, "Yeah, but...I'm just a mom."
Stop right there. That's like saying you're just a superhero. Just a teacher. Just a therapist. Just an all-night caregiver. There is nothing "just" about what you do. Whether you've been done raising kids for years or you are just getting started, you need to take a moment to recognize everything you've accomplished
You've Learned to Love Unconditionally
Those toddler tantrums and testy teen years did a number on your patience – and your nerves – but you never stopped loving that angry, adorable little human. Whether or not they share your DNA is irrelevant. They are part of your heart, and you'll keep hugging them hello, goodbye, and "just because..." since you've earned that right.
You've Learned the Meaning of Sacrifice
Long nights and even longer days, Google searches on weird symptoms, and refereeing who gets to sit in the front seat next – all in a day's work for you.
But, you might have been whispered a few lies, too. You might have been told that you shouldn't wish for a day off or time alone, that your hobbies don't matter anymore, or that your career goals can't align with your family's needs.
Your Family Needs You to Care for Yourself
Your family needs you to feel refreshed. Your family needs you to regain the parts of yourself that have gotten buried under years (decades?) of caring for others.
And even if they didn't need those things, you still would. Motherhood is a gloriously undervalued journey. Some choose it. Some are surprised by it. Either way, it is meant to be an enhancement to your life, not a replacement.
I hope someone gives you a bouquet of roses this Mother’s Day or a dinner out... or a weekend away. But more than anything else, I hope you can turn to the next mother in your life and tell her that she is seen, that she is heard, that she didn’t cease to exist the moment motherhood was bestowed upon her.
We see you, Moms, and we love you.